Valentines -- A Day of Love

(we really do love each other)

On Valentines it's always been kind of a drag of a holiday for me. DOn't get me wrong, i love my husband and i think it's fun to go on a date and he ALWAYS gets me something wonderful (usually jewelry) but i just think it's a very blah holiday...

But for some reason this year i have an extra special reason to love my husband and Valentines day. I have watched alot of close ppl have to deal with some serious relationship struggles in the last few years. Couples who haven't been as lucky as Brian and I and have not been able to work it out. I've seen some friends go through serious heart break, and even my own mom is only barely starting to get back to a level ground after her divorce. My sister and her fiance moved their wedding date... friends broke up... it's just been hard to watch them all struggle with "LOVE" when i've been blessed to have it so readily given to me by Brian.

Brian is the most amazing husband i could have asked for -- i thank his mom and dad for it every chance i get. Now, he isn't perfect, he still drives me crazy about little things he can't seem to "remember" (like putting his shoes away, or leaving glasses on the counter, or by falling asleep while watching Trey) but outside of the normal craziness we have he is amazing. He always listens. When he hurts my feelings it really hurts him to know he did -- and let me tell you, him hurting my feelings is a RARITY. He tries everyday to make me happy. He makes an effort to come home every day with a hug and kiss for me and spends every minute of the night with me and Trey. We have a friend that has told us, "you're lucky". And although we're lucky to have found each other, luck isn't at all what plays part into our wonderful marriage. Selflessness. It's not one person or the other -- it's both. BOth of us respect one another and our relationship enough to know when to stop pushing, to open up, to BE WHAT THE OTHER NEEDS and WANTS. We love each other enough that we know what the other can and cannot live with and we don't push those boundaries.

(Cruise 2007, Ride to Canada 2008, Wedding, Dunes 2006)

For all these reasons i love my husband. I love that he knows what i need and lets me do it. I love that he comes home and kisses me the MINUTE he walks in the door. I love that he lets me pick what we watch when we go to sleep, or that he doesn't complain when all i want to do is read.  I love that he picks me up after a bad day, and tells me that i'm a good mom and wife even when i feel like i'm not. I love that he puts up with my dogs that he didn't want, and that he lets his son play with them whenever he wants to. I just love HIM. I love his smile, and his heart and his bod! :-)  I love to look at him and i love to just be with him. I love our life and everything he's worked for and sacrificed to make sure i have what i wanted (i.e. my house, my baby, my car, me everything). 

For me life is all about meticulous planning and replanning and i'm always so stressed -- Brian balances all of that out for me.

Brian is Brian. And he's perfect for me. He may not be perfect for everyone -- but to me love is about feeling equal to him and feeling like our life together and our happiness is more important than ANYTHING else. And i do, i feel that everyday. I never have to question him - i know where i stand - and that's at the top. That's how you should be loved. Fully. Wholy. Undeniably. Like i love him, like he loves me.

SO with all that (musy musy mushy i know, sorry) i want to say Happy Valentines Day to my love. And i hope that this Valentines brings love to all of those who are near and dear to us.